Dolce Week-end Getaway ~

I'm Pawsitively excited ....

  

Packing My Suitcase....

Getting on one of these ..... 

Of Course I'll be Sitting very low......

Mommy and Daddy get to have real seats.

Can You Guess where we are going??

Wonder if I'll see this 4-legged beauty on the beach

OK .. One more hint...

We are going to Auntie M's and Uncle M's vacation home!!!

WOOF !!! WOOF!!!

AND

We are going to have Canadian Thanksgiving in the sunshine!!!!!

New You ~ Building the foundation

If your reflection in the mirror no longer fits the life you are living or want to live then it’s time for a change. How does one go about creating a “New You”? This perhaps is the million dollar question and certainly if you were to ask 10 people you would receive 10 unique responses. Now, I am not an expert on this subject nor do I claim to have all the answers. I have however, spent the past 4 years (October 28th) after re-learning to eat, speak, walk, and think; trying to figure out who the person staring back at me in the mirror is.


By sharing with you the baby steps I have taken forward and at times the giant steps I take backwards I hope that you realize you are not alone and that with faith, belief, courage, determination, hard work and support be it from Virtual friends here in Blog Land or from friends you seeing daily… you too can start on the path to “New You”!

Spiritual,Mental, Emotional Fitness:

It does not matter what your religious background is, so long as you have your Spiritual self, belief and faith. The power of being able to stay positive is extremely important, as the energy you create around you is what will embrace you (by the people and things that come into your life). Ever stop to think - its the person who is always down, complaining that just doesn't seem to get a break; while the person who faces life's challenges with the glass is half full attitude seems to come out of even the most horific circumstances.

The one thing I strongly suggest before embarking on any life changing is that you seek the services of a psychologist. As often there are underlying issues that until dealt with no matter what you do or try it will only be a temporary band-aide. I know what you are thinking, but trust me I felt the same way in the beginning and went through various "Shrekos" (and even a quack or two) before I found someone that I felt comfortable speaking with.

Support, whether virtual or via a close friend or family member you need someone who will help keep you motivated, and will cheer your accomplishments.

Once, you have the above in place you can get on with the Re-invention:

Physical Fitness:

Post Accident ~ 96 lbs, extremely weak, non active

Post Accident (just weeks prior to) 4 year mark ~ 135 lbs, low energy, low-active,

GOAL: ~ 115 lbs., become more active by January 31st, 2011

THE PLAN

Yoga (Modified to accomodate limitations in right elbow and back etc.) 1x per week

Gym - physio program with aide of personal trainer 1x per week

Reflexology ~ to help with pain management 1x per week

Walking 1-3x daily (10-15 minutes ea.time)

To maintain Spritual, Mental and Emotional

 

Reiki 1x per week

Meditation - structured 1x per week

Meditation non-structured ~ daily

Do You have a fitness goal? What is your Plan to achieve it?

Next Tuesday Healthy Eating Habits...

The Healing Begins ~ Mondays...Part Three

After the “warm” (click here to read previous) welcome Mr. G’s cousins extended, during our trip to his farm, many questions danced through my head: Why is that they cannot accept Mr. G moving on with his life? Are they not happy that he is still alive? The most recurring question was, How can they treat their own flesh and blood, with so much disrespect after all he had suffered and lost? He was the one who had lost his spouse, yet these people made it all about themselves.

It was at times like these that I wished my head could focus and work like it use to. Of course I did not share the above thoughts and questions with Mr. G. , I tried to get him to forgive them for their hurtful words and actions and move forward to understanding that they must not be at peace with something within themselves. Yet, each time he tried to reach out to them and extend an olive branch, he would return more battered and bruised by their words. His hurt and heart heavier than each time before.

I felt so helpless in my ability to help Mr. G. he had helped me through so much, but my focus had to remain on my rehabilitation and I could not allow for any distractions. I was fortunate to have the love and support of my own family and friends, who made me, realize the situation with Mr. G’s family actually was not about me, but about him and the lack of respect his family had for him. Interestingly enough I would come to learn that this was something that Angel P had often voiced as a concern to Mr. G. at various times during their relationship and marriage, even weeks prior to her horrible accident.

In the months that followed things did not become any easier for Mr. G. His family, the people who were suppose to love him unconditionally, protect him, and support him, were instead isolating and pushing him away (they of course called their words, actions and behavior ~ LOVE for him). The love for his family made their actions and words that much more heart breaking for him. My heart went out to him not only because I loved and cared for him but also as a friend. I had never experienced nor witnessed such hatred in people, especially by someone’s own family.

The confirmation that God gives you what you need, was never more evident than in the love, support and understanding Angel P’s family gave (and continues to this day) Mr. G. It would be Angel P’s family who would keep him alive through the incomprehensible emotional abuse at the hands of his own family, who for some reason seemed to remain more concerned with what 3-4 cousins and strangers thought was right, than with Mr. G’s happiness and willingness to stay alive.

The year 2008 was coming to an end and with it so many endings and beginnings. I was adapting to my artificial elbow; Mr. G. with the love and support of Angel P’s family was starting to truly grow and come alive again; the renovations on the house, though not progressing as quickly as anticipated ,was slowly transforming it from a place of refuge, from so many painful hurts and memories in our respective lives,  to our home.

What I want to share with others ~

There are many uneducated (not scholastically ~ but about being human) people, who will try to negatively influence the opinions of others about you. They prey on the weak trying to keep them down. Stay strong, do not allow TOXIC PEOPLE to distract you from healing and fill you with hatered, instead wish them peace within themselves and their lives.

There is no book you can open that will give you the outcome of a specific situation. One thing is certain on this road of life we have many lessons to learn and without the various detours, pains, questions, and tests of faith we would not evolve into the souls we are meant to be.