tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8806321148001582068.post2256737644656021028..comments2024-03-05T04:34:27.855-05:00Comments on Celia M. ~ Living My High Heeled Life: Relationships & What I've Learned at 50highheeledlifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07205935979513877589noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8806321148001582068.post-37227795155006700552017-07-18T22:17:54.778-04:002017-07-18T22:17:54.778-04:00Honouring the gift God gives us is the most import...Honouring the gift God gives us is the most important - as it honours HIM! ... when the gift is taken for granted it is the path to dishonouring. Very well said my friend. <3<br />highheeledlifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07205935979513877589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8806321148001582068.post-81871851667036188752017-07-17T23:02:51.914-04:002017-07-17T23:02:51.914-04:00Brilliant line, "Until each person has dealt ...Brilliant line, "Until each person has dealt with their pain of a past relationship and has a healthy relationship with them self - they cannot truly have a healthy relationship with another." Long before Leland came into my life, I spend a few years healing, finding myself, forgiving the people in my past who were toxic (and moving on), learning where I made a mistake, accepting that accountability which kept me growing healthy. I was taking care of myself, and was independent, well able to function. Our relationship is very healthy although he did have some final healing to do at the death of his late wife. Like what Mariette said, God had prepared me years before to meet a "wounded spirit" - which Leland was due to his wife's untimely death. God prepared us both to meet one another and God is why, 23 years later, we continue to grow both in love and respect, to keep that "honeymoon" feeling as fresh as possible, continue to respect one another, never disrespecting. We protect our relationship completely and totally by putting one another first in all things (except God). What we have is quite amazing but we also knew going in that God had put us together - thus we honor God by never dishonoring one another.LBDDiarieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12095130599361379113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8806321148001582068.post-81237475293150241432017-07-17T09:54:28.266-04:002017-07-17T09:54:28.266-04:00You're quite welcome and hugs straight back at...You're quite welcome and hugs straight back at you!<br />MarietteMariette VandenMunckhof-Vedderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16877699174880945452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8806321148001582068.post-3357547223515327752017-07-17T08:22:34.365-04:002017-07-17T08:22:34.365-04:00Your wisdom and insight always inspires me. Thank ...Your wisdom and insight always inspires me. Thank you for your words. Hugs,C.highheeledlifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07205935979513877589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8806321148001582068.post-75751328556320857592017-07-16T23:59:30.392-04:002017-07-16T23:59:30.392-04:00Dearest Celia,
Guess we all get hurt along our jou...Dearest Celia,<br />Guess we all get hurt along our journey through life.<br />Even as a young child you can learn about this pain, losing a friend because they move away and are out of reach...<br />Nowadays that is a different story but often being available 'on line' is not the most solid foundation.<br />Sooner or later it might shake up and cause cracks and start crumbling.<br />Talking about our life partner, that is even more tricky.<br />Being in love is fine and I guess it always is glamorous as long as things are new.<br />Working on a relation and keeping the depth of emotions and respect deep at all times, is something else.<br />Not all manage to live through that high maintenance era and there IS no way around it.<br />If one of the two is not willing to put enough effort in, than it will slowly go downhill and eventually become a lukewarm thing that will be very hard to rekindle.<br />Sure, the honeymoon period will not last forever as we can get sick or needy as we age, but if the foundation is a solid and deep one, we overcome that together. <br />It is funny as we just got back from a short Lower Mississippi cruise and with 148 passengers, you meet lots of couples.<br />Both of us almost immediately pick up the imbalances between several couples; often that being the wife way too dominant or always talking... <br />Guess all minor flaws that lived early on in the background, only resurface and become huge.<br />That's at least what we observe as 'outsiders' in just a couple of days. <br />The reality, what is going on in the real intimacy between a couple is even a lot more magnified than what we observe from a certain distance.<br />But as you say, any ruins of a past relationship can cause a bumpy ride and at times it proves a ride to nowhere...<br />We cannot live for the other person! Love and Respect cannot bridge everything and has to come from within.<br />Willing to mend and patch up a broken soul in order to reach out anew.<br />Wishing you a tranquil exit and a good mending period!<br />Big hugs,<br />MarietteMariette VandenMunckhof-Vedderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16877699174880945452noreply@blogger.com